My name is Colby Garman and you can read my multi-purpose blog over at
getagarman.blogspot.com. I watched some footage this past week of some of
the media attention that Fellowship Church received for their 7 day sex
challenge and thought I would try to work out some of my inner reasons for
never wanting to do anything like this. Some of them may be noble and some
of them may be ignoble, but I’ll let you decide whether any of my reasons
are informed by Biblical principle or not..
1. In our culture where sex is often worshipped and at the very least it is
exalted to a higher place than it deserves in the overall importance of love
and marriage I would fear the possibility of sending the wrong message to my
congregation about its exalted importance. Don’t get me wrong sex is a good
thing ordained by God, but it is not nearly as important as our culture
would have us think.
2. I would be concerned about unduly marginalizing the widows/widowers,
disabled, single, and divorced believers in my congregation with a challenge
for our church that they can not participate in.
3. I would be concerned that my motivations for such a challenge may be more
rooted in adapting to our sex-addicted culture, rather than simply
addressing the Bible’s teaching on sexuality.
4. I would be concerned about advertising such a challenge to the general
public as a motivation for joining us for the series.
I am certainly not opposed to addressing sexuality and how it is addressed
in scripture. It is entirely appropriate and we should not shrink away from
teaching on anything that scripture addresses. The question that I think we
need to keep before is in the how of addressing issues of sexuality in the
body. As I said earlier, our culture trivializes the sacred beauty of God’s
gift of sexuality and I think we need to be careful to address it in a
manner that restores it as a sacred part of the marriage covenant. I think
that a seven day sex challenge runs the danger of failing to accomplish this