My name is Rebecca Wire and I am a member of Pillar Church where Clint is the pastor. I have known Clint and Jennifer for 4 ½ very fun years. I have served alongside them in our local neighborhoods and in Balinese villages. My husband, Andy, and I are thankful that God brought us such wonderful friends to serve alongside.
When I first saw the questions Clint was posing on the suggestion list, I immediately was drawn to the question regarding birth control. The blog topic is: “If you don’t believe Christians should use birth control write a defense of your position.”
My husband and I have gone back and forth on this issue since we first began discussing having children. One constant in these conversations has always been, “What is the attitude of our heart?” This is something we try to examine in all aspects of our life and certainly, having children is a huge step.
After researching hormonal based birth control, I can definitely say that I do not think hormone based birth control is okay. The entire progressive purpose of the hormones is to a) prevent ovulation; b) alter the woman’s body chemistry to make it more difficult for a sperm to penetrate an egg should ovulation still occur; and c) alter the lining of the uterus so that if ovulation and fertilization occur the fertilized egg will not implant. That last part is definitely abortive. The chances of ovulation occurring while you’re on the pill are greater than you might think. I was surprised to learn that some women still ovulate every month while on the pill. The chances of the entire process leading to an expelled fertilized egg are slim, but it is not a risk my husband and I are willing to take. I would encourage you to research this yourself.
I do not think that other forms of birth control are unbiblical or evil. I don’t think that a couple who has one or two kids is somehow less godly than the couple pregnant with their 14th. There are many roads this argument could take. I would say that I do not believe Christians should use birth control without truly examining the attitude of their hearts. Here are a few questions that Andy and I have tried to work through over the almost seven years that we’ve been married.
Are we acknowledging God’s sovereignty over all things including the womb?
We may already be familiar with verses from Psalm 139 and Jeremiah that talk about God forming us in the womb and knowing the plans he has for us before we are born. But what about God’s sovereignty over the womb itself? In Genesis alone we can read multiple examples of God opening and closing the womb. He answers the prayers of barren women to grant them children for his glory.
Does our practice of birth control somehow impede upon God’s sovereignty?
We know that God will grant pregnancy when he wants to. He can work around birth control if he wants to. We have known friends to become pregnant while on the pill or using other forms of birth control. We’re not stopping him from exercising his will. But, as my next question poses, are we “trying” to stop him?
Do we believe trying to prevent pregnancy, space pregnancies, or become pregnant is being done in a way that is trying to tell God what to do? Are we trying to be the ones in charge here?
In essence are we trying to say:
“Don’t give us a baby right now. Okay, God?”
“Okay, God, now you can give us a baby.”
Is God’s pleasure the thing we seek first?
Whether we stumble and make the wrong moves or not, does our heart want to honor God above all things? Do we admit when we have had the wrong motives and ask God for clarity and wisdom to proceed how he would have us go? Are our hearts humble before the God who says these children are a reward, who blesses us with fertility and who shows us so much of himself through the trials of parenting?
Thanks for reading; and thanks, Clint, for letting me ramble on your blog!
For His Glory,